That's the best way to see what your vulva **actually** looks like and, even more importantly, identify your clitoris (a.k.a. That is, once you find it (easier said, than done—just ask your ex).
From the outside, all you'll be able to see is the clitoral hood—a flap of skin that retracts during sexual arousal—and the glans clitoris, a little button-like nub. Here's what's going on under the hood: Those are the clitoris' "legs"—they're anywhere from 2.25 to 2.5 inches long and—similar to a penis—can get erect when aroused.
), but these expert-approved tips and tricks will not only teach you how to best pleasure yourself—but also take your self-made orgasm to the .
That's totally normal—and tbh, not that surprising, considering many straight women get off to lesbian porn.
FWIW, if you're a lesbian and you masturbate thinking of a man, that's normal, too.
"It's essential for women to be able to identify their anatomy," says Janet Brito, Ph D, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in Honolulu.
She recommends beginning your investigation the old-fashioned way: with a hand-held mirror. ) nerve endings— is where the masturbation magic happens.
But if you're just looking for a little extra wetness for more fun—or have a silicone vibe—stick to a water-based formula.
(It won't break down your buzzing friend.) John Mayer wasn't kidding—your body really is a wonderland, specifically your erogenous zones.
After all, it's kinda hard to feel sexy if your room's covered in month-old laundry and yesterday's Chinese food containers (no matter how good they might still smell).
Plus, Marie Kondo-ing your space can help clear your mind, giving you more room to focus on identifying what feels pleasurable and, consequently, increasing your chances of having that big O, Brito says. So, do your best to pretend the outside world doesn't exist (buh-bye, phone) and tune into what's going on inside your bod.
(And that's, ya know, kinda the whole point.) "Every woman has a different fantasy," Millheiser says.
"It doesn't have to be about you and your partner, either." (Maybe it's you and a young Ewan Mc Gregor in that one scene from ..me?
"We know that you get total-body relaxation after an orgasm, which is great for someone who is tense," she adds.