Because of the stigma surrounding single parents and myths I was believing at the time, my subconscious told me I would have more luck keeping my profile baby-free. On my first date after being pregnant, dumped and giving birth – when my self-esteem had hit rock bottom – I sat opposite a man who visibly quivered when I revealed I was a mum and compared my child to his ongoing battle with Crohn’s disease.Just like anything on your profile – whether it be recent pictures, your height or your profession – honesty cuts out the potential for misunderstandings or, well, meeting narrow-minded fools.
Moreover, if you do go on a date with someone and they ask if you have kids or it comes up in conversation, just be honest!
The great advantage to being upfront about this is that it’ll help you weed out any bad dates or partners.
I now realise that my family is something to celebrate, rather than hide, and that the right person will recognise this also.
But it’s taken me a while and a lot of bad dates to get here. When I first returned to dating, I didn’t mention my son on my online dating profiles, or when I met men in real life.
You know your child is the best person ever so why assume another person will feel any different?
In our household ‘baggage’ is considered a swear word.Not only will you have fun spending time with your kid in these places, but these are also great locations to meet adults too!In the same manner that you teach your kid not to tell lies, dating experts say you should be honest about the fact that you are a single mother.” The good news is that there are plenty of new ways for you to meet someone–especially if you spend most of your time with your kid.Consider taking your kid to a local farmer’s market, a park or a museum.Being a single mother is a lot of work and your children and career likely take up the majority of your time.