I forgot the wisdom about men needing time alone after cycles of intimacy.We didn’t talk for a few days but he wanted to make up. I kept nagging him about every little thing he said and how he said it.This after him showing increasingly serious signs of being very into me. He says he need “time,” and wants to stop dating and just see what happens.
I caught myself in the middle of the conversation (phone), and I said okay let’s stop this and call me back in 5 minutes and we’ll just be sweet and on the same team.
He called back and said he wants to break up and it’s become too exhausting for him and he’s not even sure he wants a relationship right now. We are still in touch and very loving and friendly to each other.
My last two guys did not appreciate the way i brought up keeping my options open every time my expectations weren’t met.
Katarina, he is a world traveler and moves on quickly so I don’t want to waste the opportunity to reunite with him romantically.
However, 2-3 weeks ago, I threw a fit about him spending time with his friends instead of me.
It was ridiculous of me, because we had just spent several days in a row together, but it made me so insecure.
This might have worked on an energetic level to maintain his competitive attraction to me, IF I didn’t subtly throw it in his face that I could Circular Date whenever I was feeling insecure because he wasn’t meeting my crazy expectations.
Our fights would escalate really fast because of my emotional instability, but we really liked each other (and loved each other already from being best friends and going through so much together) and the sex was awesome, of course.
Then holding my ground when it was time to let down my guard turned him back into a frog.