I’m not just talking about the big time global dating sites either.
I also tried niche plus size sites, sugar daddy sites, interracial sites, and even a random one where the guy pays you to date them!
As much as I loved living large in LA it finally came to and end and I’m now back in Oz and single as hell.
As soon as the wheels hit the tarmac an invisibility cloak descended over me and I was once again back to being undateable.
Being a ‘big girl’ in the USA isn’t a deal breaker by any means – it’s a descriptor, not an insult.
Some men like blondes, some like tall women, some are attracted to boobs, butts, brains, athletic types, and some like big girls, fat chicks, or plus size women. I kept wondering why American guys are so different to Aussie blokes when it comes to dating fat chicks and why in one country I’m kryptonite and the other I’m candy.
I had more dates in a month in the US than I would in a decade in Australia. As a fat girl I never had dates while living in Australia – but as soon as I moved to Los Angeles everything changed. Guys literally chased me out of bars just to speak to me (one of those encounters even turned into a three year relationship.)I was single, ready to flamingle and life in Hollywood was amazing and everything you’d imagine.
My plus size blog Big Curvy Love was kicking along, I was working in podcasting, rocking fabulous fashion and for once in my life finally felt like a legit part of the deep end of the dating pool.I knew this would happen before I booked my ticket but it’s just something I accepted as part of coming home.For decades I tried to prove my worth is more than my weight to no avail – so I literally had to move overseas to be seen.I thought maybe attraction to plus size women was related to ethnicity and the idea that in the USA it’s common to see plus size women held up in the media as beautiful especially in the African American and Latin communities. The idea of a plus size woman being considered sexy in Australia doesn’t happen.We’re the ‘before’ on the Biggest Loser, the mum, the funny fat friend, the relatable mate but never the desired.The purpose was to offer myself up as the guinea pig for plus size daters and report back on my experiences worts and all.