Photos do not indicate a person is stuck or that they aren’t ready to date.
The wonderful and amazing thing about human beings is that we don’t have a finite capacity for love.
Ask yourself: Why are you uncomfortable with the relationship? If you are uncomfortable with the relationship, it is reasonable to express your feelings (you have a right to your feelings, after all). I am dating a widow(er) who has children and I am really nervous about meeting them. Make sure you are both on the same page about what the kids have been told and how you are being introduced.
Do you feel concerned their late partner’s family won’t accept you? What you decide may depend on the age of the children, whether you are the first person the widow(er) has dated (or at least who the kids have met), etc.
Keep in mind that at major life milestones, kids may feel especially upset that their deceased parent isn’t there and that you are (which is not to say they will view this is as a bad thing).
All this is why it is so important to keep an open dialogue with your partner and, if appropriate, their children about their grief.
If you don’t understand why this article is necessary, I’ll tell you, the majority of emails we receive on this topic are not from widow/widowers themselves, but from the people who are dating them.
Now, as a griever, you might be thinking, ” and honestly, in the days before we started WYG we may have said the same thing.Always remember that the parent/partner who died is still a member of the family.You aren’t there to replace that person, rather fill a new and different space in the family.Most likely not and 9/10 the same rule applies here.People do not cease to care about loved ones simply because they have died so, no, we would not recommend you ask them to take the photos down. Their relationship and love for that person will continue and that is normal and healthy (if this is blowing your mind, check out this post on Continuing Bonds Theory).I am dating a widow(er) and they are still close to their deceased partner’s family. First, let’s be clear, it’s very hard to say what is and isn’t normal in grief.