Based on your answers you may now see our list and photos of gays who are in your area. Click on the "Continue" button below to join our site and begin searching for men who live near you.Although gay dating sites provide a useful platform in allowing men to meet each other, Christopher Halton writes for Pink News of how they can also put some gay men at risk.
On Monday, I was one of 30 or so men to take part in the filming of an advert for Survivors UK, a lottery funded charity set up to support men who have been raped or sexually abused.
Fortunately, I have never been a victim myself, and attended the shoot merely as an extra.
I’m not aggressive enough, I don’t like engaging in anonymous sex and to be frank, I am too neurotic to clamber up nine flights of stairs to the dingy flat of a man I have never even met before to partake in intimate relations. What really put me off the whole thing was a message I received within 24 hours of re-activating my account.
I always figured that there would be other guys like me on Grindr. It is unprintable in its original guise, but the subtext was that this ‘gentleman’ was going to come and find me and then forcibly penetrate me whether I liked it or not.
Sex education in schools is, at best, perfunctory, and for gay kids it’s largely non-existent.
For most young gay men, sex education is something that is acquired through exposure to sex itself, via porn, and later with partners who are often more experienced than they are.
At the time, I used to berate myself quite severely for it, but I may have been doing myself a favour.
If any of these men had been abusive or put pressure on me to do things I wasn’t comfortable doing, I could well have found myself going along with them.
A decade ago, I just didn’t have the emotional confidence to refuse.