Well, a couple months later, again I was on his computer, found reoccurring pictures of the same girl.
I’ve spent more and more time here for the past 6 months, since we’ve got engaged, so I’ve used his computer a lot more as well.
I was messing around one day and found a ton of pornography on it.
What do you think and can you help as to what I should do. The feelings that you are experiencing now are very similar to what people experience when they discover infidelity.
At an emotional level there is very little difference between discovering different types of cheating—it all hurts just the same (see what counts as cheating).
Eventually, he went and deleted all the pornography and included the pictures of that girl. I finally broke down, I knew his email password, and I know it’s wrong, but it didn’t stop me, I just needed to know if he was talking to anyone-more than just friends.
He said it was to put an end to everything and I should never doubt his love for me. Well, I continued to use his computer and I would check every once in awhile just to see if I’d find any new pics of any girls. I was searching for a site I had gone to before so I pulled down the bar where you can see past sites visited and ratemybody.com, adultfriendfinder and others were listed. I understand what these sites are and at first I just thought he was going to them just to look at the women. So I found emails from adultfriendfinder telling him he’s got new matches or so and so was contacting him.In these types of situations, it is common for people to offer quick solutions, but easy solutions typically don’t work long term (see once a cheater).So, our best advice is probably the most difficult.Typically, what happens when you try to control a partner’s behavior, especially a behavior that is very rewarding to him, a partner will learn to better hide or conceal his activities (see when people lie).And it may help to be realistic about how much both you and your boyfriend can change with respect to this issue.Initially we had web cams, I got rid of mine, he still had his and just put it away a couple months ago (5).