With time and painful experiences, we all risk building up varying degrees of bitterness and becoming defended.
We benefit from focusing on what we can control and not what we can’t.
We can become aware of the myriad of ways we influence the reactions we get from others, even the negative reactions.
I write in an effort to change both your reaction to that sentence and mine. A side effect of that, the existing, is an idea that’s been stuffed into my brain like down feathers. I never stop thinking about what’s next, and my professional drive is one of my favorite things about myself.
An idea so simple and powerfully suggestive that women build goals, even futures around it. I’m either type A or just a morning person, I dunno.
Others are single due to the circumstances of their lives.
They may have just gotten out of a meaningful relationship or have dated relentlessly and just haven’t found someone with whom they’re truly compatible.Maybe that will generate some perspective and positivity around what I am. body#leftnav .current-categoryh1body#category h1,body#new Arrivals h1,body#search h1,body#thumbnail [email protected] only screen and (max-device-width:415px)body#category .category-thumbnail-wrapper.clearfix.twelve.columns .product h2#recently-viewed-items h2,.block Callout Shaded h4,.header nav li a.header .search Desktop .search Button.header .search Desktop .search Form input#keyword.header .search Desktop .search Form input#keyword:focus.header #item-counta.button,button,button.button,button[type=submit],input[type=button],input[type=reset],input[type=submit].product .name,.product .price.product .price.product .Nav li a,Nav li a:visited,Nav li span.header nav li .subnav li a,.product delim.delim::[email protected] only screen and (min-device-width:415px).pagination-next,.pagination-page,.pagination-previous,.sortby label,Current Items label#email Sign Up:empty.It’s not about making them go away, it’s about changing my reactions to them. Maybe in letting go of false urgencies, invisible missing pieces, and entirely made-up definitions of what counts as a valid life, I can illuminate the good aspects of being single, and feel less alone in discussing the rough parts. Then I’m plunged back into the bleak waters of knowing within 30 seconds of meeting my “date” that I’m not interested in him. I think it’s possible to look forward to that without focusing on it so much that I ignore all the good I have right now.