Until the separated or divorced person can grieve for the end of their marital relationship (whether they were the one who ended it or not), they will still have unresolved issues that they will take into their next one.Part of coming to terms with the end of the marriage is realizing what part each person played in whatever issues led to the breakup.
Spend some time alone first Although you may have the legal and spousal go-ahead to try dating while separated, it’s not something you want to rush into.
Indeed, even if you can’t wait to find new love, dating a separation is only going to lead to more confusion and hurt.
If you want your new relationship to work out (whether just for the short term or, one day, as your second marriage), you want to start it from a trusting place.
If you lie at the start - saying you’re single or divorced rather than separated - it might turn into a much bigger deal when your new partner finally realizes the truth.
If you secretly long for reconciliation, or if you’re thinking of it more as a relationship break than a separation, you simply aren’t ready to be dating.
If want to date someone else to make your ex jealous, you’re not ready.
The news of a new person in the other spouse's life may cause the spouse who is not dating to dig in their heels and become less reasonable in trying to reach a divorce settlement.
Many couples who are going through a divorce negotiate the division of their marital property, child custody and other issues themselves with the help of their attorneys.
Until you’ve come to terms with who you are as a single, previously married person, you just don’t have the emotional availability to start something new. As Jackie Pilossoph (creator of the blog) told the Huffington Post, there are all sorts of distractions you can try.