His sobriety doesn’t stop us from hitting up nightspots I want to check out, and as long as I don’t go too crazy, we both seem to enjoy ourselves. It was the 80-proof glue that held me and many a past partner together. It’d go like this: the first date would be a drunken mess at a bar.
On those dates, the routine was to immediately order drinks and watch the night descend into a blur.
The family-friendly rink Adam and I went to didn’t serve alcohol.
Well, getting into a relationship is when you truly meet yourself.
I discovered my issues with low self-esteem, co-dependency, fear of rejection, and abandonment.
Does part of me think we’d have more fun if Adam could also socially drink without fear of doing so to excess?
If he could hit a joint with me every now and then? Intoxicated mischief with partners while basking in the comfort of knowing we’re both being ridiculous and laughing about it can be exciting. I don’t try to see how many shots I can take in one night. I respect his choices and his boundaries, and he does the same with me.
It soon became abundantly clear why that advice is given: dating while newly sober can rock your foundations.
You think you get to know yourself when you get sober?
Honestly, thank god, because if I’d had a few drinks, I would’ve totally fallen on my ass. I very much enjoy a brunch-time mimosa (especially those bottomless babies) and a few gin and tonics on the weekends. I believe there’s nothing like relaxing with a smooth glass of red wine.