This was either going to be serious, leading hopefully to a life-long commitment, or it would end if either of us came to realize we didn’t want to be together long-term.Beginning an LDR forced my boyfriend and me to step back and truly ask ourselves about our goals and intentions.Dinner had turned into breakfast and we forced ourselves to say goodbye before heading towards separate flights. If you truly want something to work, and you put everything you have into it, you’ll be surprised at what you can accomplish.
What kept me going was knowing that this distance wasn’t going to last forever — it was going to end.
Sometimes you just have to take it a day at a time.
And though the majority of Americans do not meet their partners online, this number has more than tripled since 2013.
(Last year, 19 percent of couples surveyed indicated that they met online.) While the thought of sustaining a romance over long distance doesn’t thrill most people, more and more are willing to give it a try.
So it’s not surprising that I met the love of my life while traveling. I still love the reactions we get when people ask “so you’re from Australia, he’s from America – where did you both meet? After having both finished the Mt Kilimanjaro climb, we met through mutual travelers at the hotel at the bottom of the mountain.
We have a pretty incredible story – so I’m told – which included pulling off one of the greatest long distance relationships ever, being almost 15,000 kilometers apart. Before we knew it we had spent hours talking to each other and laughing together, and found ourselves sitting beneath a starry African sky in the early AM hours.It’s important to weave moments of connection into your schedule and coordinate times to talk — especially if you are time zones away. I would have never embarked on the thrill and sorrow of a long-distance relationship if I had thought there was no end in sight or no purpose to the pain caused by separation.You don’t date someone long distance because you think they’re cute, but because you are deeply committed to the relationship and could see this developing into something meaningful or life-long.But that’s what happened, and it’s happening to more and more couples each day.With the proliferation of technology, the increase in online dating and dating apps, and the overall transience of our culture, the number of people in long-distance relationships (LDRs) is increasing.I know this is not the case financially or logistically for everyone, but making a priority of reconnecting physically when possible is incredibly helpful for increasing your confidence in the relationship, building lasting memories, and continuing to deepen your sense of togetherness.