I have to start by explaining the theological doctrine that drives the approach I want to outline (and advocate).
That doctrine is called the of Scripture (which states that the Bible is the authoritative Word of God, it’s true, and it contains no falsity or error).
Many want to know how they can go about getting to know someone and eventually getting married without getting hurt or compromising their faith.
The system today’s young men and women have inherited for finding and marrying a future spouse leaves a lot to be desired.
We often hear complaints from readers about the confusion, hurt and sexual sin they’ve encountered despite their best intentions.
Joshua Harris, for instance, has promoted a model of courtship that harkens back to a model used broadly before modern dating evolved.
People attempting to follow a courtship model within today’s culture, however, often run into a lot of practical questions, such as, “What if her dad is unavailable or uninterested in being involved?
Scott Croft is an elder at Capitol Hill Baptist Church where he teaches a seminar on friendship, courtship and marriage.
He is also an attorney who is used to tackling tough questions.
Well, many evangelicals who otherwise believe in the inerrancy of the Bible and who might generally agree with the sufficiency of Scripture have nonetheless embraced the area of our faith and life at some level.
Some things it talks about explicitly, like salvation or sanctification or marriage or elders.
Some of the messages we’ve presented have taken the position that Christians can apply their faith in such a way that they can still work within the system they’ve inherited.
Other messages have stressed that Christians need to be much more counter-cultural.
Indeed, the central issue we need to confront — and the reason I write and speak on this topic — is that when it comes to dating and relationships, perhaps more than in any other area of the everyday Christian life, the church is largely indistinguishable from the world.