Despite what your friends, parents, or various Reddit threads say, Mc Manus says the decision of when to start dating again is 100-percent dependent on the person in question.
The feeling of another person’s body heat as you sit next to them at the movies, the anticipation of the first kiss (and all the other firsts that follow it), the dizzying happiness of waking up to a “good morning” text from someone you’ve been dreaming about all night…It’s easy to love whole heartedly when you’ve never been hurt before.
But after heartbreak, dating is harder—especially when that heartbreak comes from a divorce.
“You do not want someone to fall in love with you in spite of the fact that you have kids.
“Rather, you want them to appreciate what a great [parent] you are and be attracted to that as well as all the other wonderful things about you!
Modzik starszy: LMS; Ekstraklasa I liga II liga III liga IV liga Klasa okrgowa Klasa A, gr.
Trampkarz starszy: CLJ U-15, wiosna; LTS, wiosna; okr.: 1, 2, 3, 4; okr.: A, B. Kobiety Ekstraliga, I liga pd., pn.; II liga III liga MLJM, gr.
—and reads your honest profile and really likes it, is the only person you want to spend your precious time and energy getting to know,” she says.
“Think about it—you don’t want to spend time with someone who is interested in you because of things that aren’t really authentic.
Other women need time to process the grief over the loss of their relationship, and can take a year or two to feel ready to date again,” she says. If the latter, Mc Manus suggests asking yourself, “You don’t have to be completely ‘over’ your ex, but if you are still consumed by anger or self-recrimination, then it would be a good idea to work on those feelings before you start dating again,” she says.
As with all daters, it’s important to think through what exactly you’re looking for. If you find yourself struggling to let go of anger, rejection, and hurt feelings, Mc Manus says talking to a therapist can be helpful.
“Everybody has a history, some good, some bad.” However, Mc Manus says that you should absolutely be up-front about having kids.