They do not have any empathy for you or the destruction they cause because they feel entitled it is their RIGHT to punish and abuse the mere mortals who are lucky enough to come into their superior presence. Part of that strategy is to deny you any closure and to let you know they have moved on without a second thought for you.
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An area of psychology massively under catered for: both a thorough understanding and analysis of covert narcissistic personality disorder and covert exploitative tactics and specifically how to treat the type of devastating long term complex trauma and damage to an individuals psyche this kind of invisible abuse can cause.
Covert Narcissists dangle their vulnerability in front of you as bait, just waiting for your good nurturing mothering/fathering instincts to kick in and rescue the poor little lost child they are presenting to you.
The problem is: Coverts can learn that a quick and TOTAL apology is a really slick way of getting their target to “go back to sleep” if it looks like they are waking up.
Narcissists are ambitious, successful, go-getters full of energy and pumped with charismatic charm.
This leads to crushing feelings of frustrating isolation as you feel like you are the only one on the planet who can see this gaping disparity in the person and it’s impossible to explain to anyone not experiencing the abuse directly. This is when the self doubt sets in, you are never sure if the abuse is in fact abuse and are left with the endless agony of wondering if you are sick one and if its not in fact all your fault.
This is of course exactly what the covert narcissist wants you to believe.There is research that indicates that coverts (usually referred to as “vulnerable” or “stealth” narcissists in the academic literature) are MORE likely than overt (or “grandiose”) to engage in domestic violence in the early phases of a relationship and to abuse children. To be quite honest its the been the most difficult course Ive ever produced for me personally.They are also shown to be more likely to engage in incest than overts. Add to this that Covert Narcissists vector in with the worst forms of malignant narcissistic borderline personality disorder for certain key traits and behaviours and you have a hellish rollercoaster ride of emotional dysregulation in store during contact with a covert. It’s a very complicated subject and my ambitions for the course are very high.All the flattery of the initial meeting is a phase in which they are sizing you up, quite possibly full to the brim with boiling envy and narcissistic rage that you have something that they “deserve” to be given the purpose of which is to learn your weaknesses and vulnerabilities so they can drain you dry.Overt narcissists are a walk in the park compared to the covert, and they genuinely are a nastier breed.This is frequently a part of the covert narcissists fantasy: .