“They’ve changed how we think of relationships and how we meet people,” she says. This is not easy territory.” Make no mistake: The English-born editor, whose journalism career brought her across the pond in 1997, is no Luddite.Actually, she considers herself “very pro-app.” But she thinks people are swiping all wrong. Back when she helmed Cosmo and, before that, Marie Claire magazine, she was inundated with tales of hellish dating experiences.
“The odds are against you once you start having IVF, and the odds are against you over the age of 35. Apps and sites that weed out the slackers and the stupids will push you in the right direction.
And to pretend that it’s easy to have a baby in your 40s or 50s is — it’s just selling women a false dream.
Others told her about weekly group trips to the pharmacy to pick up Plan B emergency contraception. Her new book, “Love Rules: How To Find a Real Relationship in a Digital World” (Harper), looks to overwrite these troubling trends with healthier behaviors.
It’s an unflinching guide to dating in a swipe-happy world, aimed at millennials and boomers alike — and it’s blessedly free of kooky Cosmo sex tips.
She got pregnant easily in her 30s, giving birth to her first son at age 36 and the second at 39.
Still, she wishes she would have started earlier and had more children.
In the gospel according to Coles, dating in 2018 is missing one major thing: honesty.
She’s tired of women lying to themselves about what they really want.
“We live in a very politically correct age,” Coles says. Apps with a wide range of choices that have no fee will give you your most fabulous online-dating experience.
“There are things we’re not being honest about with women.” One myth she’d like to see die: That it’s cute and fine to get completely trashed and wake up the next day confused, remorseful and unsure if you’ve slept with someone. I want to find the best, and I’ll pay more to find my perfect match. Try: Tinder, Happn, Plenty of Fish Mostly B’s: Carrie Bradshaw You’re a romantic at heart.
“Millennials would rather stick heroin-laden needles in their eyes than pick up the phone and call someone,” Coles says.