When it came to dating in New York as a 30-something executive in private equity, Dan Rochkind had no problem snagging the city’s most beautiful women.“I could have [anyone] I wanted,” says Rochkind, now 40 and an Upper East Sider with a muscular build and a full head of hair.Unlike the square-jawed bachelors who disrespected her, Argese is more boy-next-door in the looks department. “He’s not a model, but he’s so much more attractive in who he is as a person,” Young says.
The men who were judged to be the best-looking had higher rates of divorce.
Looking to avoid such a fate, Rochkind started dating a woman who isn’t a bikini model, Carly Spindel, in January 2015. The two met after Spindel’s mother, matchmaker Janis Spindel, scouted Rochkind at a gym.
“[She] is a softer beauty, someone you can take home and cuddle with, and she’s very elegant,” Rochkind says.
“And she’s 5-foot-2, so she can’t be a runway model, but I think she’s really beautiful and is prettier than anyone I’ve dated.” Carly has no qualms about how her future husband views her compared with his exes.
“I met some nice people, but realistically I went for the hottest girl you could find.” He spent the better part of his 30s going on up to three dates a week, courting 20-something blond models, but eventually realized that dating the prettiest young things had its drawbacks — he found them flighty, selfish and vapid.
“Beautiful women who get a fair amount of attention get full of themselves,” he says.
“When men see beautiful women, they are more concentrated on how she looks because they want to ‘have’ her, and so they don’t want to go deeper and get to know her,” says Isabell Giardini, a 22-year-old Italian beauty signed with Major Models.
“And that’s why at the end of a date they wonder, ‘Oh that girl is so beautiful but so empty.’ That’s happened to me often.” Others say the stereotypes about pretty people being shallow are true, even if they’re hotties themselves.
“I still want someone who’s in decent shape, but it’s more important to find a guy who’s goal-oriented,” she says.
“[Beautiful men] are very into their bodies and don’t really care about people that much, or make time for their family.” Megan Young, a 23-year-old p.r.
“When men get to a certain age, they realize that it’s important to meet a life partner that they connect with,” she says.