But as some of the Book Riot women started sharing stories, we noticed that there are plenty of men out there who just don’t seem to understand how to date a woman who reads.
In other words, many of us had stories about dudes on dates being weirdly condescending about books and reading, aka “literary mansplaining.”DON’T: Tell them why you’d never read that book/genre DO: Pick someone up in a bookstore by offering to buy whatever book they’re holding (like buying someone a drink in a bar)DON’T: Buy random hardcovers as gifts to give on the second date, apropos of nothing (this too often involves condescending assumptions about what a near stranger has or hasn’t read)ALSO, DON’T: Buy them a self-help book about dating/relationships (yep, this happened)DO: Ask them for recommendations DON’T: Assume someone who tells you they’re an avid reader hasn’t heard of Franzen DO: Engage in discussions about books you each liked or disliked and why DON’T: Tell them why Hemingway really is the greatest and that maybe they just don’t “like academic writing” or “writing you really have to think about”ALSO, DON’T: Talk about why you “just can’t get into” reading books written by women (or people of color, LGBTQ folks, etc)DO: Plan fun, literary dates like bookstore tours, going to the library, or doing some literary tourism DON’T: Take your date to the bookstore, then just follow them around and hover awkwardly while they browse DO: Make thoughtful recommendations based on books they’ve told you they liked DON’T: Hand them a stack of books written by white dudes that you “really think they need to read” (we’ve heard of them, we promise)And, finally…DO: Be a decent human DON’T: Be a jerk That’s it!
Cacioppo, more than one-third of couples who married in the United States from 2005 to 2012 met online.
” “Have you ever traveled around another country alone?
” and “Wouldn’t it be fun to chuck it all and go live on a sailboat?
Today, there are millions of people on thousands of dating sites looking for their perfect match, whether that’s for a hookup, date, relationship, or marriage.
With this growing industry comes a lot of information that’s worth knowing.
” Ok Cupid believes that answers to these questions may have some predictive value, presumably because they touch on deep, personal issues that matter to people more than they realize.
But what works well for predicting good first dates doesn’t tell us much about the long-term success of a couple. Where to write a negative review calling out the restaurant that gave you food poisoning and ruined your vacation. Where to get treatment for the food poisoning you got at that restaurant where you ate on vacation.Do you have any stories of weird things that have happened to you after you told your date you’re a reader? The landscape of technology is constantly changing, which means so are many aspects of our lives. Before dating sites came along in the mid-1990s, most people were meeting their partners through friends, work, or classified ads in the newspaper.Many singles compare it to a second job, more duty than flirtation; the word “exhausting” came up constantly. Is there a way to do it more effectively, with less stress?