Now, if you have no sin in your life, I will retract my statement, otherwise, I hope that God will open your heart and mind so that one day man can accept you and your flaws as well as you accepting his.Wish I would have read this years ago…again, it probably would have fallen on just as deaf of ears as my Exs were when I was trying to tell him he drank too much, and how it was killing me. Recovering alcoholics – this article doesn't apply to you.
I've met some great people who have substantial recovery time.
People on the fence about leaving – listen to yourself.
And, as you seem to feel, that should extend to other co-alcoholics.
Stanton: I tend to be attracted to emotionally unstable people and alcoholics are a subcategory of that group.
While I have seen some wonderful transformations in Alcoholics Anonymous, the statistics are not promising and I would not place any bets for my future on another addict. I just dated a (mostly) dry alcoholic for only 3 months.
There are millions of kind, whole and addiction-free men in the world. I’ve been sad that we broke up because I miss him, so I’ve been reading articles about the nightmares of dating an alcoholic to remind myself that I dodged a bullet.
Dear Stanton: I am currently attracted to a woman who has a history of dating alcoholics.
When she told me that she had allowed her alcoholic ex-lover to crash on her couch indefinitely, I had to step back from the situation.
And much like the active alcoholic, we convince ourselves otherwise. We don't go to the store every day to buy more cancer.
We don't wake up every morning and choose to stay with cancer.
After four and half pages of undeniable facts, I realized that there was no longer any question of whether or not I could stay with him. When you live with an addict, you are never quite certain about reality. By writing down the facts as they happened, he could not come back to me later with his own version of the truth.